Bh the cry of a child intro iyh

The cry of a child is a sign he is breathing and alive. From the moment of birth , doctors know the child is thank Gd alive , because it is able to cry.

The cry  indicates that the child is breathing and therefore alive , for breath and movement is the sign of life .

That cry does not cease even into adult hood , that same cry is there , and should be .

What is the child  crying for ?

Attention

Food

Love

Affection

Pain

Survival

Fear

Understanding

Acceptance

The child is told to suppress that cry . have you ever heard the words : 
" only children cry " . 

He is given a bottle , his diaper changed , cuddled , sung too hugged and kissed .

Yet has the child really stopped crying?

Only temporarily .

We never really stop crying.  If we did we would stop living.  The difference between children and adults, is not to
" don't cry ", but to choose what we do  cry about. It also can be a " silent cry " . a cry  in a voice that is not heard by others only to Gd , not one that is audible to the naturl ear.

Chassidus explains that a cry comes when the persons ordinary capacity cannot deal with the event he is experiencing .His mind and heart , intellect and emotion does not have the capacity, hence it "overflows" and that is expressed in tears .

An adult might think he does not need to cry , like they say " don't get mad , get even" . you tell your self : "why cry when you can act ".  "A child does not know what to do so it cries ,  but I am an  adult ,  I say to myself : 'let's act and not cry " . so we convince ourselves that  unless ones feels helpless , then we cry.  " But who is helpless ? Not I ! The other fellow is " .

But aren't we all helpless ? On some level we know we are dependent on others . certainly we are dependent on Gd . so the fact that we think we can help ourselves by ourselves alone ,  is a lie .

The Rebbe writes  : " better one act then a thousand sigh's"  . yet even when acting and seating with hands clenched ,  one can pray and cry that their action is blessed with  success.

We all know how many times we have tried and not yet achieved .

On a more existential level .

The cry really is much  deeper . its not really about what is happening around you.  Its a inner searching and yearning to return. It cannot be completely quenched nor nor ignored . its like a constant unrest that cannot be explained.

As adults we have learned to ignore it or drown it out .

But is that really what is asked of us and can we really silence it ?

Or do we become numb and that is how we live.

We say to ourselves : " better ignore the cry and live as before with inertia as king then to listen to yourself and cry .

But it is that cry that can bring you joy.  It is that cry that acts as an inner compass in you life to prompt to begin your search without fear of consequence.

The cry the will return you to Hashem to truth to yourself .

Gd willing to be continued ...

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